Have you ever been so attached to someone that when they are gone your world falls apart? Have you gone days without eating or constantly throwing up when the one you fell in love with leaves you? Have you ever had those sleepless nights were you either break out in tears or you just have a rush of rage towards everything? Have you ever spent an entire day reliving all of those amazing times you once had or go back and try to figure out what went wrong? I mean I know this sounds pretty stupid, but I'm pretty sure you have already gone thru this. So the real question is how do you keep your head up and keep pushing forward? How do you get the thoughts of getting married and starting a family out of your head? How do you start the process of getting over that person and find someone new?
You hear all of these songs about heart breaks, brake ups, or even my favorite the F that person type of songs. But, covering up your feelings only works for so long. Going out with your friends and talking about it with your best friends or parents can only do so much. Or trying to distract yourself by working out or keeping bust at your job as much as you can to avoid thinking about the pain? I don't have any answers to this topic, just a whole lot of questions and I guess just the want to know am I the only one that has gone thru this?
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I think everyone has experienced this on a very deep level at least once in their lives. Sometimes it doesn't even depend upon the amount of time spent together, it depends on the connection and pain caused by the relationship. I think it takes a lot of mental strength to push those negative thoughts out of your head. I find that working, spending time with friends, finding a new hobby, and exercising help me push through the "what if" thoughts that seem to race through my mind when I'm trying not to think about that certain someone. I find it especially difficult when a great deal of time has passed and you think that you are over the situation and you've "let go".... and they contact you again out of the blue once they end things. What do you then? Do you listen to your heart or mind? Logically you know that this person isn't good for you... but emotionally.... what do you want? Even if you do find something to distract yourself I still find that my mind still wonders back every now and then to the "what ifs"
ReplyDeleteMaybe some sort of closure has to occur between the two individuals before any moving on begins to happen. But when you figure out a simple answer to a hard question, let me know!
I am currently grieving over a break-up from last month. Everyday, I constantly have to tell myself that everything is going to be okay. And I know that to be the truth every time I look over my favorite Bible verse: "The pain that you are feeling shall not compare to the joy that is coming". [Romans 8:18] Eventually, everything will fall into place. Time heals everything.
DeleteA break up is like grieving a death. You always have to remember that everyone will go through this or has gone through this and have managed to move on. I was in a relationship for 10 years and I would of never seen myself out of that relationship never the less with anyone else, but time and God were my best friends. You will not move on until you are done! Its always hard when one still wants in but the other doesn't. Now I think to myself, how stupid was I to be so hurt over someone like that. Its sad that some people take it to the next level and end their life. No one should be that important in your life.
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